A Time-Making System for Your Relationship
Shameless plug: Appairent sets all this up so you don’t have to. But, here’s a practical way to plan and execute on giving some time to your most important relationship on Earth.
Why does our most important relationship on Earth take a backseat? Because we think it can. With all the pressing priorities in your career and supporting your kids, your marriage gets pushed into “whatever’s left”. But what if your relationship was planned more like your work calendar or your kid’s soccer schedule?
When your relationship gets a front seat, everything else gets easier…and better.
At Appairent we are building systems to make it easier to ensure your relationship gets time on that busy calendar, too. But if you want to DIY, here’s how to get started quickly and easily.
Daily Micro Connections
60-second connections even while the day runs away.
Morning
- Share some gratitude
- Intentional touch (hug, kiss, etc.)
- Tell partner 1 thing you need today
Daytime
- Text “just because” before the next meeting
- Pull up photos and send a memory
Monthly Milestones
1-2 dedicated blocks to invest in one another.
Relationship Check-in
- 30 mins: Review past month of wins & challenges
- Plan next month’s date night
Date Night
- Go out… classic date night or tailgate picnic
- Or stay in: Vino + movie night
2-4 hours just for you two
Quarterly Reset
A 2-3 hour session makes the next 90 days intentional.
Partner Pulse Check
- Share which actions and activities are working
- And which aren’t
- Pick 1 “love language” (gifts, affirmation, physical touch to focus on)
Calibration
- Schedule 1 overnight/weekend parents-only time in next 6 months
- Agree financials for partner-only activities in next quarter
- Contact sitters for plans, now!
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